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Day 20: A Simple Phone Call

A few days ago, my Grandmother left me a voicemail while I was at work. She heard that I wasn’t feeling well and wanted to check on me. I loved getting that voicemail because she does not usually call me (I think she thinks it bothers me if I am busy?) Too often, I think she waits for me to call her and too often, I let too much time pass between our conversations. For example, this is day 20 of the blog and I have not talked to her since I started. Until today.

I love talking to my Grandma because she is just about the nicest most positive person. She always has something good to say about whatever situation I find myself in. On me complaining about working too many nights and weekends, “I know it’s rough but isn’t it nice to come home and your husband and your dog are there waiting for you? Beats an empty house!” On the sorry state if the Chicago Cubs, who she loves dearly, “It’s awful. I know it. But if they get some of those young guys in there and give them a few years, they’ll turn it around. We’ll see.” On my whole arthritis situation, “Boy I wish I had it instead of you, Sarah. You’re too young to have to deal with all that. That’s for Grandmas. But you do a good job and you’ve got good friends. I hear your husband does a great job too. And I love you.”

I never feel sad after talking to her, only bad that I don’t call or see her more. At 88, she lives in an apartment that is part of a care facility. Most of her immediate needs are met on the campus but she still maintains her own residence, car and independent lifestyle. She does not have a computer, cell phone or even an answering machine, by choice. She sends hand written letters, bakes cookies at Christmas and watches as many sporting events as she possibly can, rooting for Iowa if it’s college and Chicago if professional. She is also 60 years older than me to the day. I, her first grandchild, was born on her sixtieth birthday and I think it is one of the most interesting things about me. We plan to throw a big party when I turn 30 and she turns 90. It will be so big that, in her words, “we might even have booze.”

It was great to talk to her. I feel rejuvenated and ready for a new week. As I continue to do fun things, I find more activities that I want to incorporate more regularly in to my life. Calling my Grandmother every week just jumped right to the top of that list.

From my sister’s wedding, 9/10/11.

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Day 19: Way Better than Takeout

Today was quite a busy day, but any time I got stressed or worried, I reminded myself that my in-laws would be waiting at my house when I got home with a hot, homemade Indian dinner. They live in the suburbs, so usually my husband and I go to see them. Our visits dwindled over the summer though. Any time I was not working, I was usually resting. My husband went to see them without me a few times when I was not feeling up to it, but I hadn’t seen them since mid July.

So when my husband got a call from his mother asking if they could come see us in the city, and could they bring us dinner, I told him, “say YES immediately.” I have missed out on a lot of things and going to see them is definitely one of them. And my mother-in-law’s cooking is amazing! Anyone who has tasted her food knows this is true. She is more than happy to give cooking lessons, but no chicken turns out so tender, no sauce so creamy, as hers.

She prepared everything at home, transported it to the city and then heated things up in our meager kitchen. It was ready to go when I got home from work, shortly after 9pm. (That’s the other part, it was late). Even so, we sat down to a delicious meal of chicken curry, rice, cabbage curry, and samosas. We reminisced about our wedding trip to Mexico, teased my husband’s cousin about all the studying she does (she is in the country looking to get in to a medical residency program) and looked at old pictures. They made it easier for me by bringing everything in to Chicago and, for that, I am so grateful.

My only regret is that I was so hungry when I got home that I did not even think to take a picture of the delicious food! You’ll just have to imagine…

 

 

 

Day 18: Dog Walker

About 10 months ago, over a period of about a month, I would walk our dog every day around midday. I was not working at the time, so it was a good way to help keep me (and her) on a schedule. Plus I enjoyed the exercise even if it was winter in Chicago. When my husband (then fiance) came home at night, I would tell him where we went and what we saw. Yet, after having a lymph node removed in January, I had to stop walking. I was recovering, and my arthritis was inflamed–it was one of two turning points for the worse I can identify (the other was at the end of last May). We got a professional dog walker and I have not attempted to walk her since.

Today, Elphaba and I made our triumphant return to the streets of Chicago at midday. It really is a lovely time to go out in our neighborhood. There are very few people out, and the people you do see are either moms with strollers, postal workers and other dog walkers (aka people who say hi and smile). Sometimes the children at the Catholic School up the block are at the park behind their church for recess. It’s especially lovely now because it is fall–crisp air, leaves on the ground. It is just perfect for walking.

And Elphie (which is what we call her for short) is a pretty good walking partner. Her leash walking skills are OK. I would say average just because she still likes to pull from time to time and can sometimes get too distracted by people/dogs/trucks/leaves to listen to what is being asked of her. At a year and half and thirty pounds, she is not capable of pulling my husband down the street when they run/walk but she somehow managed to catch me off guard twice today. Once was because she saw a house with that fake spiderweb stuff hanging from the fence. It moved in the wind. This is something that terrifies her so she tried to sprint in the other direction. The other time she just smelled a place in the grass she really wanted to get to.

I will admit that when our dog walker texted me today to check in, I was tempted to say please come, as I have all week, even though I have been and would be home. Instead I said we would not need him today and then found myself putting on my old dog walking gear; nice walking shoes, an athletic jacket, leggings, scarf and sunglasses. I was nervous about how long I would be able to walk and how far from home we should go, so I decided to stick to nearby streets and just take my time. While I was focused on Elphie and her walking skills, I was also paying close attention to mine. Having some relief from all the swelling and pain I had been experiencing in my left knee made the walk easier. I kept reminding myself to bend that knee. “Walk normal. Walk normal. Walk normal,” was my pace and mantra. And for the most part, it worked!

We were gone for 25 minutes and went about one mile, with stops for dog business and photo ops of course. When we got home, I felt great. Like you do after a good workout, strong, confident and hungry. And it was a workout for me. I have literally not exercised in 10 months but hopefully this is the beginning of a new period of activity for Elphie and me.

Day 17: Foursided

One of my very favorite stores in Chicago is called Foursided. It’s at Clark and Catalpa in Andersonville. They are a framing shop but also sell cards, art, candles, and lots of other cool decor and printing items. My favorite time to go is in the Fall because their front window items change from Halloween to Thanksgiving to Christmas.

It has been a while since I have ventured out for a shopping trip. This is something I love to do whether the goal is clothes, presents, or groceries. Because of the injection I got on Tuesday, I was able to go and shop around. I did not feel rushed or worried that I would get too tired being on my feet. It was really a great feeling to go out and do something I love on my own!

The loot: I got a scrap metal statue of a dog that reminds me of my dog, Elphaba, three small soy candles that smell like “heirloom pumpkin” and a pretty glass pumpkin that will probably be the only Halloween decoration I buy. Thanks Foursided for some great stuff and for being so cool. See you in about a month for Christmas decor!

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Day 16: Daily Life

This might not seem like fun to a lot of you, but today I got so much done around the house before I had to go to work. I was able to do three loads of laundry, pick up all the little piles of “stuff” around the house, finish our thank you cards (finally), order a replacement for a clothing item that was recently chewed up by our dog, conquer my fear of killing and flushing a giant centipede, start a memory board project that I will probably blog about later, organize desk papers, Lysol all the knobs, handles and light switches in our condo, and make a list of future cleaning and home projects, all because the shot to my knee had me moving around like a new person from the moment I got up this morning. Honestly, I felt like-well not really a new person-more like an old me I remember fondly.

A me who likes everything to be clean, organized and in place. Who likes starting projects, working on projects and finishing projects. Who likes going from room to room seeing what needs to be done, making a list and then checking things off the list. I’ve found that if I am not satisfied with some part of my life, cleaning and organizing my living area makes me feel better. It gives me such a sense of accomplishment and relieves my stress. To quote Clueless, “It gives [me] a sense of control in a world full of chaos.” (Ten points to whomever knows what does this for Cher in the movie).

For so long, I have not been able to do any if this. Sure, I would tackle an occasional project here and there but really, because of my arthritis and almost constant resting, my husband has been in charge of the household. Don’t get me wrong, he does a good job, but I actually like cleaning and organizing while he does it because it has to be done. Note: husband, if you are reading this, this does not mean that I will no longer expect you to clean 🙂

I guess I also just felt more like an active participant in real life today. And that felt just great.